I grew up in your typical middle class black family in the suburbs. My mom yelled a lot, but was overprotective. My dad was corny, but stern. I wasn’t allowed to spend the night over friends’ house because “you can never fully trust someone’s family.” I wasn’t allowed to go to parties unless my dad was going too. I guess that’s why you can say even the thought of college and the impending freedom excited me. To sum up my first year, you can just say that I had a blast. I stayed out late, partied when I wanted to, and overall did whatever I wanted simply because I could. College was fun but there’s always that time when you start to miss home and your annoying but loving family. Luckily for you though, the semester is finally over and your return home is right around the corner. But don’t get too excited because as every college student before you has learned… home is only fun for about two days. Three, depending on how long its been since you’ve gone home. So here are some things you should be prepared for when you step back into your parents world:
Kiss those late nights goodbye.
This was the first lesson I learned upon my arrival. Like most students on break, I couldn’t wait to meet up and chill with my old friends. We decided we’d hang out then maybe hit a party or two. Surprisingly, my mom was okay with this because she only had one thing to say as I was leaving, “Don’t forget you still have a curfew.” *Rolls eyes* But she was right – it was still her house. It would be rude and disrespectful for me to come tip-toeing in at 2 or 3 in the morning and set off the alarm. Not only that, I don’t know about you guys but my mom can’t sleep until everyone is in the house and safe in their beds.
Freedom and independence has to stay on campus.
I did nothing my first day back. I went to my room and slept. It was nice but as soon as I woke up, my mom informed me that I had kitchen duties that night. WHAT?!? It was my first day back. How do I have kitchen duties if I didn’t touch anything in the kitchen? Your parents have been anticipating the day of your return just so they could have one more set of hands to clean the kitchen, wash the clothes, and basically make you do whatever they want because they are the rulers of the house and you are just the court jester.
The only thing that will save you is a summer job.
It’s every student’s wish to either get an internship or work for the summer. No one likes sitting in the house all day doing nothing and if your parents are anything like mine, that wouldn’t be tolerated anyway. Whenever I leave the house, I know that when I get back home I can count on my mom asking me 50 million questions or sending me on thousands of other errands. Most parents don’t like a pretty-much-grown adult in their home doing nothing besides eating up the groceries and leaving all of the lights on. My advice? Make the most of your summer and make some money!
What are some things that you experienced as a college student returning back home for summer break?
Kiera Joseph is a Life in a Pile contributor who is currently studying Journalism and Mass Communications at North Carolina A&T State University.