I recently had a conversation with a guy about what crosses a man’s mind 1-2 seconds after he releases. According to him, the seconds right after are the most important because it’s when a man comes down from his high and is able to determine if the woman really means something to him. He’s either ready to leave immediately because he feels nothing for her, or he wants to stick around and chill because it’s now clear to him that it’s more than sex between them. Now, he didn’t tell me what guys think during sex, but since girls don’t have the “1-2 seconds” moment after an orgasm, I thought I’d share 7 thoughts that may or may not cross our minds during the journey to get one:
1. “Good thing I was up when he sent me the ‘you up?’ text.”
During good sex, she takes a moment to thank the heavens for getting her to choose re-runs of Basketball Wives over sleep. Otherwise, she would’ve been upset if she woke up to a missed good D appointment. Granted, she probably wasn’t even thinking about having sex that night but as soon as she saw his name pop up on her screen asking if she was up, she was down.
2. “Yasss, I’m f*cking it up!”
Girls cheer themselves on in their head during sex. If she knows her performance is good and you’re giving her confirmation through your reactions, she’s feeling like you’re the one who needs to be getting up and making the sandwich afterwards. If she’s going all in and you’re moaning, biting your lip or asking questions like, “why you doing me like this?” in a soft sexy voice, her ego is through the roof. She’s going to let you think you’re in charge but if you catch her smirking it’s because she’s well aware of who’s really running the show.
3. “Can we please do doggystyle?”
I don’t know what it is with women and wanting him to “get it from the back.” It’s almost as if there’s no such thing as good sex without it! After missionary, she’s ready to get down and dirty with you. She’s waiting for you to say the magic words, “turn around for me” so you can tug at her hair or smack and grab her ass. Fun fact: girls feel the sexiest during two positions, and this is one of them. The sexier a girl feels the freakier she will be for you.
4. “Why is he doing me like this?”
She went from, “yasss, I’m f*cking it up!” to being the one who’s now asking why it’s so good. If the D is really bomb, she’s going to ask herself this question. She’s going to be wondering what she did to deserve it or where you been all her life. She’s just hoping and praying you didn’t hit her “crazy” switch because everyone knows nothing brings more stress to a woman’s life than good D, especially when it’s coming from a not-so-good man.
5. *Mind goes blank*
There will be a moment where she won’t be thinking anything other than to focus on getting hers. She will tune you out and completely focus on herself. I just hope you know not to do anything annoying that might throw her off or turn her off.
6. “Right there.”
Wait, I’m sure she thought this one out loud. Just whatever you do, don’t make any sudden moves or you’re going to have to start all the way over. It doesn’t matter if she’s on her first or third orgasm, if she knows she’s about to arrive, she needs you to play your part every single time and make sure she gets there. Lord knows we hate having to start over on our journey to an O just because you wanted to add a little something extra!
7. “I wish he’d cum already.”
Most likely, she was able to make you cum pretty quickly during good sex. But just in case you didn’t due to having liquor in your system or due to the fact you thought about the most random stuff ever to stop yourself from only lasting 3 minutes, just know we’re on the brink of begging that you’ll get this over with in our heads and it doesn’t matter how good your sex is. A lot of men think we want a man who can go on for hours when really we just want one who can give us the best 7-10 minutes we’ve ever had!
Thanks for reading! What are some thoughts you have during or after you reach an orgasm?