Everyone on Twitter is tweeting their “here we go again” “you said that last year” “whatever, *rolls eyes*” tweets for the people who plan to make changes for 2015. You saw how the picture of the black girl stepping onto the 2015 platform, leaving the temper, heart break, & other stuff in 2014 was torn to shreds. People recreated it, saying she’s going into 2015 messing with the same ain’t shit nigga, pregnant, small ponytail, etc. But my issue is WHY? Why is change not supported? Why is it automatically considered bullshit? It takes some people 2 years to get what you learned in 2 months but guess what? You both have it now. It takes some people 3 heartbreaks to learn not to trust easily when it only took you one, but guess who I consider the strong one? None of us are on the same journey; even those with the same destination take different paths.
Why did 2015 become the year that made change a bad thing? Be supportive. When your girl tells you she’s leaving that guy you don’t like because he doesn’t respect her, PLEASE don’t roll your eyes & say “here we go again. Girl, shut up.” Encourage her! Say, “yasssss bitch. I knew you wasn’t gonna keep letting that lame ass nigga play you. You was just blinded by love” THEN introduce her to your finest male friend so she doesn’t have time to back track. When your homeboy tells you he wants to get back in school, instead of saying, “man shutyoassup, you gonna be right back here after one semester” say, “word? what you trying to study? My girl can help you with the application & all that.” Encourage him!
Every year should be a year of love. Self-love, romantic love, friendship love. Just LOVE. Never down someone’s plans to make a change in their “love” life. To eliminate people. Add people. Focus on people. Focus on themselves. Fall in love with themselves. Fall in love with their flaws. Focus on friends. Focus on building friendships. Eliminating friendships & more. Love is important because hate is dangerous. If your friend tells you she/he met someone & you SEE that they’re happy even without them saying it. BE HAPPY for them. Who cares how it happened? Why it happened? How soon it happened? How late it happened? As long as WHATS BEEN HAPPENING has been making your friend happy. I used to be the friend who was so overprotective that I questioned everything. “Are you sure you’re ready? You’ve only been single for a month.” “Are you sure he wants this or are you just happy with the sex?” Everything was “are you sure?” We’re in our 20s of course we’re not fucking sure; you might as well just let them live, support & be there if it all comes crashing down. If you feel like you’ve met someone at the end of 2014 who brings you complete happiness that you can’t wait to take into 2015, don’t feel bad about it. Don’t feel like people aren’t going to take you seriously because you’ve been tweeting “ain’t got time for a love life. All I know is get paid” every week. Because shit happens & life comes at you fast. Embrace it & adapt to it. Who knows? Maybe God decided you’ve worked for enough blessings & this time around you deserve for one to just be handed to you.
But if you haven’t found someone yet, be thankful that you still have more time to focus on being a better you. More time to figure out your purpose & if you’ve already figured that out, you have more time to focus on living in that purpose. I’ve learned that if we’re not in a relationship, it’s because we’re not ready for one and/or the person for us isn’t ready for us. Either reason is a damn good reason to not be in a relationship. So with that being said, NEW YEAR NEW MONEY. Think BUSINESS. Always be thinking of ways to be successful. Ways to expand your brand. Ways to be the greatest version of you. Make to-do lists. Make a list of short term goals, then make a list of long term goals. Get organized. Buy a planner. Buy a small notebook to keep in your bag so when ideas come to you you can write them down before you forget. Network. Meet people who are more successful than you so you can learn from them then be greater one day. Hang a calendar in your room. Become someone important. That can range from “kinda” important to “hella” important. Even if you’re not where you want to be financially right now…if people take the time out to pay attention to your brand? You’re “kinda” important. If people take the time out to pay any price you set for what your brand represents? Shit, you’re hella important in my opinion. That’s one of my goals for 2015. To get people to invest in what I love.
I won’t talk about ending dead end friendships. People cut people off faster than a Twista verse so that’s a to each his own situation. The point of the post was to make 2015 the year that growth occurs. Real growth. Growth that inspires. Encourages. Creates. We won’t make 2015 the year that made change a bad thing because change is too necessary to ever be a bad thing. Change reveals you. Change exposes you. Change changes you. Embrace it. Embrace yours. Embrace his. Embrace hers. Welcome love into your life. Welcome business and success into your life. Have courage to welcome positivity & happiness. Welcome the year 2015 & everything it has in store for you.